You tore your family apart? ", New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationship_advice community, Continue browsing in r/relationship_advice. Despite my infidelity, we moved forward and try to repair our relationship. He's not your best friend, your other half, nor your heart. I can't tell anyone a method to stop hating themselves, but if you feel that way about yourself that means that you understand there is something about you that you want to change. It will never go away. Many years ago I made the choice of cheating. I was caught two summers ago and was given a second chance. Fast forward a few years, and I re-opened the door to the AP again. What likely happened after is that you likely heard that you're supposed to feel a certain way after doing something, and studied enough people to publicly emulate the feeling of self-loathing enough to get people off of your case. It really hurts. You were killing time until your AP came back. 45K. I can't forgive myself for my affair. It needs communication, understanding, trust, respect, loyalty, etc. But he still loves me. I had a few … I used this other person for validation and nothing else. To be clear, I am a multiple offender. I'm absolutely ashamed of myself. You both weren't happy people. I kept apologizing but he refused to hear me. You need to stop lying to yourself about that, because it's simply not true. We really were. you guys have no idea what it's like being with other people, and haven't given yourselves the room to try. You intended to hurt him, while also protecting your own reputation. Your words often contradict themselves. I am in the same boat. This past week, we took a break because I couldn’t bear the guilt anymore, knowing that he’s faithful while I was being such a horrible girlfriend. Good luck to you in whatever you decide. When I was 19-20 we were going through a hell of a year or two where all we did was fight and it was always about never having sex. I've never done anything like this to anyone, ever. There's no reason why a relationship should stunt your personal growth, unless a specific hobby you try is frowned on by your SO, stuff like drugs, or super expensive stuff that could put the both of you in debt. I’ve been the husband that is in the position your husband is now in. These were not mistakes you made. Childhood issues. From my perspective, we are working on our relationship as a whole. I can hear your pain and confusion; don't just go ahead and reason away why you feel uncomfortable and how you think I'm wrong. I never thought I would be that person - ever. Keep him informed with every step you take forward. That night, I felt anxious before my girlfriends and I had even arrived at the bar. Another thing you could do is tell everyone you know about this. Don't let being in a relationship define you, you have to define yourself. Far worse though, you must accept the pain of your BS. Neither of us really wanted it though. We're going to counseling, we've started working out, and our communication has improved 100x. Consider the trauma. Rightfully so. I HATE myself. And still to this day my sex drive isn’t high. Those are your burdens to bear. Feel the remorse. My family deserves nothing less. I hate myself and to this day I feel extremely guilty for doing something so stupid and inconsiderate and maybe a little selfish. We’re still together, going to counseling, and I love him very much. Trust me, I know from … Fidelity is otherwise an issue I do not really struggle with. Everyone at that age was just a kid. I asked my readers for an anonymous guest post on having an affair and never telling your spouse. He deserves it and so do you. And to be with someone that long, from that young, without ever having that crucial time to grow, seems pretty unhealthy. File for divorce and move out immediately. You can be happy and enjoy life again. I hung out with a guy who kissed me and that was as far as it went. was created by leanne402. I don’t know what to do. He deserves this. I am 23 and he is 22. If you won't do it for yourself then do it for your boyfriend, I think after having someone cheat on you, you need time to sort your thoughts. Which is the most important thing right now. We slept together once and I felt sick to my stomach about it afterwards. I feel like this external entity. She's got video (the fabled sex tapes). I'm nervous because it's the same counselor my BS and I have been seeing together. Cheating isn’t a feeling. We don't need to go there again." What kind of monster am I? User account menu. But now, it seems like we should have. However, I would get tested to see if you're a sociopath. How are you supposed to look at your children ever again? I wanted to be supportive, and I did try to be as much as possible. How am I suppose to look at my children ever again, knowing what a monster I am? I doubt you do it. Unless your therapist has experience with abusive people then they are not likely to be able to help you very much, especially if you are lying to them. Usually I am the one who gets hurt. Press J to jump to the feed. 0. I did a very stupid thing that I now regret. I don't understand why I let any of this happen. Volunteer. The poor guy. I cheated on my husband. I don't want anything to do with me either. Throughout your entire post, the only thing that comes out of it is that you're just concerned about how your status quo will be affected. We started to go to counselling a few weeks ago. What you're really saying is that you had your bread and butter, and as long as your status quo wasn't messed up, you were ok with continually abusing someone, and not allowing them to seek help for the damage that you'd done to them mentally. I really love him and I’m ready for him to forgive me and to take me back. Wishing you the best on this long and painful road. Made the plan, executed the plan, and got the desired result. Also gaslighting the person to get yourself out of trouble. Problematically, you buried it, and he is digging up the rotting corpse to have a good look. I have no desire to pursue another relationship. I regret the pain and suffering I caused my family. It might be wise for you to get a fully psychiatric evaluation in order to determine if you have a personality disorder and if any particular therapy or medication can help. My wife and I are less than four weeks post DDay. I can't cope with this. I look at my marriage and think about how happy I am! I am a 52-year-old woman and I have one daughter. It was buried, and I was okay with that. Figure out your shit. I met someone, we shared conversations, and I went down that slippery slope. This is not about you. This is a common thing that people say they can’t understand, but I feel that it is helpful to try to understand all people’s experiences, and empathize. For what it's worth, I post here and in SI as a living amends to my ex-wife. Quit being depressed and start being awesome. I am his first girlfriend and he told me how he can’t trust people now thanks to me. But you're right. Turns out he cheated on her too (and his was emotional and physical cheating), but she didn't find that out until way after they broke up. Months later I had sex (once) with a coworker. That's how she found out. You need to get on your hands and knees and beg his forgiveness, then be prepared to live with the consequences of murder. You got what you wanted out of meeting with them, while also gaslighting and manipulating your current SO into maintaining your current lifestyle, likely through a combination of housing, money, or using him to maintain your cover to the world around you, to protect your reputation. Maybe one day, you'll see that your soon to be ex, along with your kids have moved on, and that they've got a beautiful new mother who loves them in the way that you didn't. In some ways, I feel like I missed out on half of my life. I cheated with my friends cousin. I need somebody to listen to. But on my experience it has not. I know I should confess and tell him, but... i don't know how. I feel like I ruined a once-in-a-lifetime-love. I cannot believe what a horrible and awful person I am. Your marriage may be over but your life isn't. It's so hard. It wasn't until my BS confronted me, rather aggressively, that I fully understood the damage I had done to them. I think I just never thought I was capable of hurting someone so badly. You absolutely understand why you let it happen. This response is everything. I’ll try to make this as short as possible. I do tell him about how I feel, but I try not to make it the highlight. Never been on the other end of the spectrum before :(. But even with the increase, I don't understand why I never want to. It will hurt him and will hurt you but after that there will be nothing left to hide. None of this is easy or pleasant to deal with. Right now the only honest answer you can give him is that you went after selfish desires and placed that above your husband. I'd highly recommended letting this man move on and heal and to take stock of your issues alone. In the beginning I lashed out. Your solution is simple: Pay for therapy for your husband and kids. I am a piece of garbage. She's forcing herself to have a super adult relationship at a time when she should be experimenting. You did say all types of things to try and get out of what you did wrong, because you didn't want your reputation to be ruined, and you weren't prepared to lose your bread and butter and/or Plan B. You murdered your marriage, and left this poor shmuck to feel as if he was to blame. I used Instagram and FaceTime to converse with other women while building a long term relationship (4 yr). Worst of all, if your BS tries to salvage something, you'll need to work together to heal the damage. I don't know how I can live … It was buried, and this time, for good. I don't understand why I did this, or how I was capable of destroying everything. My advice would be to break up, not take a break. period. Get prepared for this. That we never had time to be alone. For entirely selfish reasons. My best friend and her ex dated from 15 to 21ish, and she cheated on him around the age of 19/20 as well. I feel guilty about the couple of times I cheated on him and can’t forgive myself. They often study human interaction in order to emulate what they think is the desired result/persona. You admitted to gaslighting him and manipulating him mentally. It’s difficult to accept what you’re feeling right now. What feeling are you talking about? I feel like I did find the right person the first time. Need help with your relationship? But it is something that has crossed our minds. It reads to me like you need to look squarely at what your behaviors indicate. It's up to him to give you feedback. I cheated on my SO too. I cheated because love wasn’t enough to keep our relationship strong. I went to a therapist who urged me to give myself as long as I needed to sort this out, and to learn to trust myself. I did something with knowledge and I feel like the most horrible person on earth. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! you can message me if you ever need to talk. I can't believe I could do that to my husband who has never been anything but great to me. Yet I continued on in the sessions ignoring my BS's needs to hear the truth. No one is perfect, and no one behaves perfectly all the time. 6. Accept how you’re feeling. My heart. That's pretty telling. The choice is yours. It's not easy. Last week, I told him that I don’t deserve him and that he’s too attached. I'm just an independent person. Amy. I've never cheated on someone before because I've never been in an actually relationship aside from the one I am currently in. A simple thought....how about you stop lying to yourself and others. They already likely have to deal with the fallout, and shouldn't have to go through more in order for you to save face and/or protect your ego. He may ask you why you did it. You need time alone to figure your shit out. Thank you for your last thought - I feel like my life is over right now, I know it's not but it feels that way, so I appreciate your comment a lot. Including telling my BS that he was overreacting and a lot of this was in his head. It will not be for a long time, even years. The years of emotional instability I have caused them. Not that that makes anything any better. I loved my husband, and I still care about him — I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t. Accept the shame, the guilt. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. But I think what I did is eating me up more than it is him. I chose to squander it. The only advice I can give but highly doubt you will take is tell him everything. But some loves aren’t meant to be forever. You did it repeatedly, because likely, deep down, part of you enjoyed doing it. She is hurting so badly, but we haven't reached the point where she can share it with me yet. My BS was in a state of depression, and I wanted to help. You even said it yourself: "everything that YOU (not I) could ever want in an SO." Imagine the headline on the front page of the newspaper." I'm sorry :( Funny how "sorry" doesn't really feel the same anymore. While people here mean well, sometimes helping people is making them face the harsh truth, in order to actually learn and grow from it. It lasted no more than 5 minutes out of me realizing what I was doing and made myself stop. Leave your SO in peace to pick up the pieces of their life. It was still all in his head, and we were just chatting. Via a picture on a Christmas card, or on Facebook. I cheated on my wife recently. affair; forgiveness; love; dating; By LossOfControl, June 14, 2011 in Infidelity. This happened years ago, and I thought it was 'dealt with'. You didn't do anything to an "us". Viewing 15 posts - 1 through 15 (of 19 total) 1 2 → Author. 0. Respect their wishes and don't try to suck them back into a dynamic that is hurtful for them. You wouldn't do that to someone who was any of those things. I contemplate the idea of suicide. Someone I love so much, my best friend, my other half. How can I stay in a relationship and possibly marry him when I hate myself this much? Just some day, in my bubble, I get so depressed and I need to find ways to work on myself. We were happy people. Honestly, I'd recommend that you distance yourself from them, so that they can have a chance to have a normal life without you interfering in it further. “That’s why I got married three times, ’cause I can’t live without a wife. Log In Sign Up. Take the time to find out what you like, and what you need...and in a years time, if you still feel like you want to be with this person, then go for it. My ex-wife has been the wife that is in your position. What you did was past, and he wants to move past it and build a better relationship. I think I legitimately thought that is all it was at the time. Yet, I still carried on an emotional relationship with the person. Husband left me because I cheated. I didn't want to hurt him. I love him with all my heart and always will. Four, if it doesn't work out there are plenty of fish in the sea. Your BS found out about the affair because you weren't as smart as you thought you were in regards to covering your tracks. I proceeded to tell my BS that it was nothing. I am finding it difficult to make it through the day. As for you presently, wallowing in self-hatred isn't going to do you or the relationship any good. I don't know how to. Yet, I still carried on an emotional relationship with the person. Time. And on the other hand, I have the most perfect guy in the world. I don’t know what to do. I cheated, don’t remember it and can’t forgive myself Home → Forums → Relationships → I cheated, don’t remember it and can’t forgive myself. You have responsibilities, kids, a husband or even a STBX. In my case, my BS doesn't want anything to do with me. You can live with yourself because you must. The topic of infidelity came up and my instinct said, "That's buried and dealt with. He drinks sooooo much and it’s apparently not a big deal. Quit being depressed and start being awesome. My BS again, found out. I cheated on my girlfriend of 3 and a half years. You knew that you were capable of hurting someone, because you admitted that you had been putting it into practice for a while at that point. I cheated and I hate myself. All the while, I never thought of my previous infidelities. I was out of the house for the first three. Pastor, I was on vacation in the US and I went to a party and lost control of myself. period. I was in a 4.5 year relationship and I sent nudes to someone else for validation. At the end of the day, you may be alone and he will have a new partner. For a while I thought I was asexual. You didn't re-open the door. So I guess that has something to do with it. But I'll hold onto that scrap of hope. I'm here as I don't know what to do. He hasn’t forgiven me yet and I don’t even expect him to. Small chats, then longer chats, then the emotional affair all over again. It's obvious that you need time to be alone, and develop yourself as a person. She was into me and i dont know why it happened but it happened twice. Like, why I don't crave it. It is an action. Why did I do this to us? My BS had needed some space, so he left the marital home. July 8, 2018 at 7:48 am #215833. I barely liked being touched. Posted by 1 year ago. You may be the perpetrator of the worst trauma of their lives, but you need to be there when they need you. To hurt someone so profoundly. You let him take the blame because you weren't strong enough to carry it yourself, and you already had created a scapegoat that you could abuse anytime that you wanted, which of course, was every day. And for this to resurface after thinking we could make it through anything...I've devastated everyone. Travel 4-5 years in the future aka now, and I told him everything 2 months ago. And I'm just along for the ride now while he clears his head. I don't feel like this is something I would EVER be capable of doing. I think it’s bullshit. You can’t hold a marriage together with just love. With that said I have this relationship looming in the back of my mind every hour of everyday, I can't tell anyone about it, where i'm from no one would underst.. Read More. I am a wayward spouse. She can't get over guilt that easily, it's gonna take her a long time. If there's one idea that you take away from this, it's this following statement: You don't love your so, not in the least. What follows here is your truth. The truth is that you didn't feel sick to your stomach. I Cheated on My Husband and Never Told Him. I cheated on my husband and now need help! Two put the ball in his court and don't try to over fix problems. That's what I have the most trouble with. That’s real talk. I don't see how I will ever be happy or enjoy life ever again. How are you doing now with your whys and hows? He left and will never come back. I only say that because it's kept me honest, mostly. But, I didn’t tell my boyfriend when it happened. If he doesn't want anything to do with you, honor that. How am I suppose to look any other person in the face again? Leave your kids alone. A cheater. Here's the truth that you need to face: You made a plan, executed the plan, and got the desired result from the plan. From 19-20 I did stupid shit. I have to say having been both the BS and later the WS there is nearly nothing more damaging than learning to trust someone again and having them again lie to you. "But yeah, she should go easy. I've been a wreck ever since. What you've done will have damaged them psychologically in ways you won't even be aware of. Apart from that, if you really want to change, sign up to a program for abusers and work hard on that part of yourself. How could I make this mistake when I'm not even unhappy in my relationship and what does it mean about my will power in the future? New Reply. I know they won't stay, and at this point, I don't think it would be healthy for them to. But that is where those counselors can help. We don't want to break up because our relationship is so good. Participant. I'll be 24 in a few months. I (29F) cheated on my partner (44M) after trauma and I can't live with myself. Before you do it let him know what you would like to do and see if he is ok with that. All of that. Thanks for your comment. You weren't disgusted with yourself. Our lives are so intertwined that breaking up and not seeing each other would be nearly impossible. I denied everything I just didnt want her to know the truth. I found it helped me a lot to figure out my whys and hows (individual counseling). This time, she's looking at a question on the aftermath of an affair. I caused that. I'm not in a place to say whether you are or not, but your actions certainly remind me of the sociopaths that I've met in person. Don’t stop until you understand. You didn't tell him, but not for the reason that you gave. Does that make sense? My partner found out about my repeated infidelity. Samantha Rodman — February 8, 2015. Afraid of your BS's emotions because you caused the hurt. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I never physically want (crave) it, but I do enjoy it. Likely it has nothing much to do with your partner but maybe more of where you need validation. And she's still willing to consider therapy. I cheated. I'm not even sure relationships count before the age of 13, I mean, how could they? Be completely open and answer every single question he has. You just kept your SO around for safety/independence, and not for companionship. Based on everything that you've admitted thus far, you're absolutely aware what you were capable of doing. The door remained cracked open. I've put them and our future at risk. The ball is already in his court, he knows everything. I think the ball is already in his court, she's already told him everything. You were just fine with things as they played out. I never got the chance to be single or figure out who I am. I’m a soldier. If you have any remaining respect for him, that's exactly what you'll do. My BS of course found out about the affair, but I was never honest with him about the physical interaction we had. Well for one you shouldn't kill yourself. He has been lied to for years. I know I'm a horrible person and he … Press J to jump to the feed. I destroyed a person's ability to trust any other SO ever again. my advice is to split up, otherwise you'll never hear the end of this, and neither of you will ever feel that perfect-relationship feeling ever again. I am a wayward spouse. You did what you had to do for you. Take some ownership of your actions, and stop trying to disassociate and/or project them on an innocent man. As for my sex drive, it has increased. I hope your situation does get better. Close. You did it, and you cannot undo it. But again, this is something we need to take into consideration. How could I have done this? Please help me, I'm destroying my life +179|-144. The counseling is definitely helping. It'll be the hardest step for you, but you'll be stuck in limbo if you can't be honest. These were deliberate choices. He may ask for sexual details. Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate it a lot. You intended to hurt him. I think she needs to relax a little. But I’m scared. No need to call me names or be rude to me. When you sought the other person out multiple times, you had to have known at that point what you had become capable of. I try to stay away from RA because reading about everyone else's problems makes me feel worse, if that makes sense. Our agony aunt Mary Fenwick offers words of wisdom to help with whatever is troubling you. It most certainly was an emotional affair. I still cheated. it happened last year and my girlfriend heard rumors that I had cheated. I did sit with my BS last night and answered questions. I do have my first individual counseling session tonight. I wasn't graceful at all in this. Told them I felt abandoned. You need to stop attempting to lie to yourself about that, and admit the truth. There was no on-going relationship with the other guy and I changed jobs shortly after. Again, we didn't seek counselling, or talk about it. Wish your soon to be ex well, and leave him alone while he rebuilds himself. Fast forward to today. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for 2. Helperdroid and its creator love you, here's some people that can help: New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the SurvivingMyInfidelity community, Continue browsing in r/SurvivingMyInfidelity. Being with him is all I've ever known. Your family needs you. I just don't know what to do. Time tells all and heals all wounds. Keeping secrets creates more hurt than any words that you could have told him. Her father and I were married, but he divorced me five years ago. This topic has 18 replies, 6 voices, and was last updated 2 years, 6 months ago by anita. My mom always says, "Imagine someone wrote about your relationship... What would you want them to say? You refer to your BS as "them" all the time, because you don't want to address him as a man, in turn, emasculating him further. Come clean and sanitize the wounds. Get your facts in order. Another lie: "we tried to move forward and repair our relationship". You forfeited that luxury when you made those deliberate choices. Tuesday, July 11, 2017 11:33 PM by Guest . The sooner that you admit that, the sooner that you can make peace with it, and the sooner he can move on, get therapy, and maybe undo the amount of damage that you've likely done to him mentally. I'm wracked with guilt and remorse. Yes, you did. I met up with a family friend who has been flirtatious in the past, and we ended up having sex. All I thought of was "how could they just leave like that?!" Therapy with abusers is not recommended, leave them to seek out therapy for themselves so that they can heal. I've spoken with many people on this sub, and tend to be the one who doesn't sugarcoat it. How naive I was to think that. You owe it to them. I cheated and I don't recognize myself. Honestly, you don't seem like a piece of garbage. And it took me being a screw-up to realize it. As someone who has cheated I would die before I ever did it again. We never dealt with it. I don't know, I probably sound like a big ***** but I did what I did and I cannot change it. We had intimacy issues for many years and I know I have codependency issues. If all you're doing is focusing on the pain YOU'RE going through, then his needs and the relationship are being ignored. 46. I lied to her, and now I have to come clean to her as well. I cheated on my husband at my bachelorette party, and it was the biggest mistake of my life. Anyway. This contradicts the "it was buried, and I was ok with that". Work out more, learn to cook new and better things. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I am working on me now, or at least I am trying to. But, we did. You have to hope and pray that he will stay with you, it will no longer be your choice, only his. I’m with ash on this though. I am just having a hard time coping with how I could be so cruel. 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